Talking to strangers & The pretty girl with the red plastic headband

When was the last time you socialised with total strangers? You might not remember or you might not be into that kind of sport.

But what more fulfilling than getting to know other people; Extroverts, introverts, weirdos, geeks and smartasses! And occasionally some like minded people to be friends or lovers ;)

I always enjoyed the thrill and chills that my dirtbike was giving me as a youngster. The excitement after every session was worthwhile the trouble.

I see no deference in my adrenaline levels when I’m seeing a person I’d like to meet. And certently it’s equally scaring as being on the bike. Especially if it’s a girl we’re talking about.

Many thoughts are popping up like mushrooms in the wild. What should I say? Is this the right moment? Am I going to be embarrassed in front of other people? Am I going to come out as being creepy?

When it comes to meeting strangers, tricks don’t usually work I’ve learnt. Being authentic and genuine about your intentions would give you the most chances to succeed. In fact more than 13%. Ok I’m joking ;) it’s actually far less :))

Ok, it’s Friday night and I agreed to go out to a place I don’t usually go to. It’s not a place to meet someone really. It’s always packed, the music is loud enough to sing no matter your natural talents and everybody is dressed up as far as it goes. Oh, and more than half are smoking and drinking vodka like orange juice!

But this time it’s different.

Unexpectedly enough, there is this pretty young girl across the bar. She’s tall and with an athletic built. So, different from the rest. She looks simple, curly hair and mild make up. Drinking a red bull instead of vodka and wearing a red plastic headband! I’m hooked! How on earth a girl like this appeared here!

My friends agreed on my observations and in minutes I’m determined to cross over and talk to her! I know I have to act as fast as possible. Being impulsive it’s a must in these situations.

I literarily drag my self over without having a single word in my mouth or mind.

I touch her back politely and say hi;

There is a pause – I still have no clue what I’m going to say.. Probably my friends are watching silently but I don’t really know it. I’m in the zone of boy meets girl and my mind is occupied with fear and excitement.

– I saw you from there and I had to come and talk to you
– Why;
– it’s your red plastic headband that grabbed my attention
– haha, really why;
– look all these women around; they look the same. But you look pretty different! Curly hair, not smoking and not drinking alcohol; And with an awesome red plastic headband!!!

Being original is effective and as simple as sharing your thoughts. Since your thoughts are by default and in a way unique! Note to your self though that if you’re having any naughty thoughts to share then be prepared for nasty outcomes.

But being polite and truthful it’s your best bet. You’ll feel good afterwards no matter the results. And you’d probably be wiser and ready for your next social adventure.

Look around. So many people are waiting to share their feelings and life as friends or loved ones. Don’t be afraid, push your self off your comfort zone and grow your boundaries. Share your experiences and have a laugh about it.

Make friends, love and a live a life worth sharing!

Going public – why you should;

Hi guys,

It’s been a while since I wrote my last post.
Although my blog seemed silent for the past month everything else has been on the go.

Usually I keep my thoughts and ideas to myself. And let me explain what I mean by that.

When I have a grand idea I get goosebumps! I’m usually over excited about my new idea and I can’t wait to research it’s potential. At the same time I’m battling with my inner self to not spill out a word about it. At least to anyone that has nothing-essential to do for the idea.

It’s not always easy to keep quite but it works wonders for me. Sometimes I give in. I can’t help but open my mouth to my loved ones.

One, might assume that I could get reassurance and a good amount of motivation. Especially if they like the idea. Which is the case most of the times. :)

Giving in, is like letting go, I know deep in me that this idea is over. At least for me. Nothing excites me after I share it. It’s like I’m cashing out all future excitement of achievement before I even start. And that has been a huge problem of mine.

When I started this project I was skeptical about announcing it to the world. Not to mention putting in online.

But then I had a thought of enlightenment. This project is not only about me. Although I have lots of fun playing tennis every morning and not having to work in an office.

This project is about anyone who dreams about something bigger than him or her. Something that no one has done before. Something exciting and uplifting. Something that makes you smile to the people around you.

So I had to share. I began slowly by starting off this blog. I then wrote on a forum. And that was the most awesome thing I’ve done so far. It took me by a storm. In just a couple of days my thread “NTRP 0 to 5 in One year. Is that possible” had already 3000 views! By now it has 200 comments! How amazing? I’m glad I did open up.

A few commenters have drop the idea to me of making a few videos about my progress, diet and rest. Wow! What a terrifying idea? Me, talking about my ideas? Terrifying! Talking in English? Extraterrestrial!

I confess I was also quite amused and flattered by the idea. More than 10 people had brought it up by then and more had agreed.

A few nights after, I came across a quote by Ellen Johnson Sirleaf, “If your dreams do not scare you, they are not big enough”.

And there I was. With a dream that scared me. I had to try it. I Put myself out there while fighting to fulfill this project and motivating others to start their own projects and beat the odds!

I’m committed to the people who follow this story and because of them I am extremely humbled and motivated to start writing more and producing a series of videos.

Thank you! You’re awesome!

Small lessons, big steps

It’s been a tough month and still trying to keep up with this daunting but very exiting and fulfilling task.

From now on, one step at a time will do. It’s easier for most of us to take small steps. Although big jumps stimulate us and bring out the best of us, they don’t seem to be a sustainable method.

Don’t take me wrong. By definition I’m the person who over-stretches the possibilities of anything I’m working on. And I trapped myself a gazillion times. So, instead of taking a big jump, for once I’ve decided to take a hundred small steps over and over again. If you can keep up with that mindset and stay consistent and true to yourself you’ll be surprised when you’ll finally look back over your shoulder.

At first it might seem like relatively slow progress. But that’s just the beginning. As you move forward and learn to dance the dance you will get faster and faster!

So my February 2013’s resolution,

  • Improve technique, built up power in my comfort zone and intensity level-
  • Create a consistent serve, but still work on making it better and better. Start thinking of placement.
  • Get fitter. More on endurance and agility.
  • Work on a diet that will sustain enough energy during the day.
  • Inspire and engage others to carry out sporting activities and adopt a healthier lifestyle.
  Day schedule outline
  8:00 – 9:00 Breakfast
  9:15 Gear checked and loaded
  9:30 Arrival at tennis facility
  9:45 –  10:00 Warm up
 10:00 – 12:00 Practice session with coach
 12:00 – 12:30 Relax and snack
 12:30 – 13:30 Light warm up, ball machine drills and serve practice
 13:30 – 13:45 Relax and snack
 13:45 – 14:30 Stretch
 14:30 – 17:45 Launch, relax, recover
 18:00 – 20:00 Strength and conditioning